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My name is Jess, I'm 25, and I'm a lesbian. A year ago I moved to a new city with my best friend, and since then the anxiety I've lived with my whole life spiked dramatically. Some days I can barely leave the house, often have panic attacks at work and the rare times I manage to go out to social events. I haven't made any friends here yet, and my relationship with my parents has been very strained since I came out.

My self-worth has been so low. Trying to accept myself for who I am and love myself is a daily battle, and it's difficult to believe I'm worthy of anything. Counseling, medication, support groups are all helping in their own ways, but on some days of this journey I really could use another set of hands pulling me forward, because I feel so alone and purposeless.

I worry about everything constantly: what I will do for a career, how I will ever be brave enough to date, if I will ever goals or ambition like my peers, how I can do some good in the world. I'd so appreciate anyone taking the time to get me out of my own head for a moment. Any empathy, compassion or kindness will be received with so much gratitude. Thank you for taking the time to read this.


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  • Alé C
    I am not exactly how this works! I would love to send you a card. My email is [email protected] ... please send me your address. ❤️❤️
  • Jessica
    Hi Jess, I've sent you an email to request your address, I have a card to send to you!
  • Jenn B
    Jess, you are so brave for reaching out! I just went through a period of high anxiety myself and can totally relate to your feelings. A few things that helped me through it: the book When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron. It really opened my eyes to many things including self-compassion, which is tough for all of us, and joy. Up until now, I've had a tendency to block joy from my life because I didn't feel worthy or I was taking life waaaaaay to seriously. I understand the feelings of not wanting to leave the house and be as kind and gentle with yourself and you navigate a new city and other changes. I'll be sending you oodles of good vibes and prayers! Thank you for reaching out and giving me the opportunity to reach out. Hugs and all the best to you Jess! :)
  • Jenn B
    Jess, you are so brave for reaching out! I just went through a period of high anxiety myself and can totally relate to your feelings. A few things that helped me through it: the book When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron. It really opened my eyes to many things including self-compassion, which is tough for all of us, and joy. Up until now, I've had a tendency to block joy from my life because I didn't feel worthy or I was taking life waaaaaay to seriously. I understand the feelings of not wanting to leave the house and be as kind and gentle with yourself and you navigate a new city and other changes. I'll be sending you oodles of good vibes and prayers! Thank you for reaching out and giving me the opportunity to reach out. Hugs and all the best to you Jess! :)
  • Jess, you perfect angel, I honor you. Stop a moment. Breathe. What others think of you is none of your business. Even family. Those that mind don’t matter and those that matter don’t mind. Find the positive in something and stick with it. Let it be your default. You can only feel one thing at a time. Please choose peace.

    All the best!
  • Cindy R
    Hi, brave Jess. I'm a lesbian at the other end of the age spectrum (I'm 71) but I sure empathize -- and with the anxiety too. i'd love to write you and will email for your address. Hang in there, it looks as if a wave of Holiday Hands love and support is coming your way!
  • Marianne
    Dear Jess,
    My heart goes out to you in your new surroundings. We have moved twice in four years, and I understand the challenge of acclimating in a new community, meeting people, joining things (and de-joining). These are some things I have done that have helped... passing on as they might help you, too.
    1. KNOW that you are as much a spiritual being as a physical one, and you are a divine expression worthy of loving and being loved.
    2. You, too, have a voice in your heart that is guiding you and its different than the voice of fear. It usually sounds like excitement and joy (and perhaps only for a quick second before fear takes over.) What things, before you talk yourself out of them, brings you that excitement?
    3. I am a professional worrier! As you know worry is living in a future. I make it a daily exercise to practice present moment living... noticing the smallest thing. A cool leaf, a beautiful tree, etc.
    Please e-mail me at [email protected] if periodic notes from me can help pull you forward! Love Marianne
  • Chankla
    You are who you are...
    Be yourself,you just need a few good peeps in your world to go on your journey in life ,we all do...
    Peace&Strength sent your way....

  • Jammie Hahn
    Dear One,
    I’m so sorry you’ve been struggling. Life can be so hard sometimes. But you never know when things will take a turn for the better, so please be encouraged. You are so worthy of love, acceptance, and all good things. I’m sending you a virtual hug and would love to continue to be a suppport for you.
  • Kimberley
    Jess, I want you to know that you are worthy and loved just as you are. You WILL find your way through this. You have something unique to give this world. It will get better. I promise. Take one day at a time. Be true to your self. Do something every day that you love. You are a gift to this world and we need you. Sending hugs!
  • Allison
    Hi Jess, I just want to tell you that you are perfect just the way you are!! Sending you lots of hugs.
  • Lori
    Sending you an email...
  • Amy
    I came out when I was 25. I remember feeling so much of what you’re feeling right now. And I too had issues with my parents and feeling not good enough and worried about my future. Its been 13 years since that and all I can say is that it gets better, one day at a time. I look back and everything seems like it was a lifetime ago and everything worked out just like it was supposed to. You will do great things in life and you are who you were meant to be. It will get better. I promise.
  • I would like to send you a book that has had a beautiful impact on my life :)
  • DeAnna
    YOU are worth it. It gets better. The days are long but the years are short. If the transformation to feeling less anxious is slow, you just know it’s working and has a better outcome of sustainability. No one ever fixed their feelings overnight.

    Love and prayers to you~~