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I just read Love Warrior and couldn't be more validated! I was drawn to this book on a weekend alone from my boyfriend. He had just broken up with me, and it put me in a tailspin. I am trying to come to terms with my life and find my inner warrior. My boyfriend and I have made up now, but I feel lost, lonely, and isolated again. I feel like I'm letting him define me and control me. I need to figure my life out and take charge of myself so I am no longer playing the victim. I need some support, strength, and friendship to help me during this difficult time. Any words of encouragement would be greatly appreciated.


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  • Sarah
    Dear Anjela,

    As women, we often minimize ourselves, starting early on. I, myself, find that your letter resonates with me and a current journey that I am currently on.

    Starting way before I was a teenager, I was taught that love was conditional for me. I started to date men who treated me as if I was below their feet. I denied this pain for over fifteen years, now at thirty, I am able to recognize that I let myself believe that as well.

    Life is too short to feel lost, lonely, and isolated.

    You are a cherished gift in this world. Your gift takes up so much space in this world that everyone is affected. It's beautiful.

    If you'd like to message me further, please send to sjy8599@utulsa.edu.
  • Livia
    Dear Anjela

    I know exactly how you feel, feeling lost and lonely is because you feel misunderstood and you feel misunderstood because you
    do now know who you really are and what you stand for and therefore probably surround yourself with people that are nothing like you.

    For example, if your value is honesty in a relationship and the other person does not value honesty, you will feel lonely in that matter.

    The better you get to know yourself the less lonely you will feel. Your boyfriend may from the outside be a perfect fit, but from the inside maybe not only you can find that out.

    We all feel sometimes that others try to define and control us and that happens when we have not communicated what we stand for and what is important to us.

    When we communicate what is acceptable for us or not, and what we like and what we do not like. Then the others can react in two ways :
    When this person loves you he will gladly listen to you
    When this person is afraid of you becoming yourself, he will belittle your wishes and dreams, and values.
    When this person wants to find common ground with you, he may agree to disagree in a kind way and you may find common ground together while you both can be yourself.

    I am married 30 years and the first 8 were difficult
    I married someone from a different culture and religion and learned that from the outside we are nothing alike
    but through my journey, I discovered we are a lot alike.

    We both value the same things.
    We both value ambition, love, education, hospitality, adventure and we love life and we take raising our kids happily very seriously
    and we both love god even if we give it a different name and pray in a different way we have the same goals and dreams.

    And that is what really matters. That you discover what you value and if you value both the same things and value your own needs and communicate them
    you will not feel lonely anymore.

    When you know yourself more you will start to love yourself more
    and it will be a lot easier to know if he is the right fit for you.

    I wish you lots of Love and a wonderful love relationship with yourself and your partner

    Livia






















  • Jacey Kinnaird
    Relationships are the hardest and most beautiful thing we take on. Would love to send you an email or physical card! jacey.kinnaird@gmail.com
  • Anjela
    Thank you to everyone who has left me encouraging words!! It has helped me on my journey to discover myself and for recovery.
  • Judie
    Just Do the next best thing. and then the next. Those decisions will guide you, teach you and carry you through to the other side of pain to your next best self.
  • Kate
    Hi Anjela,
    I would love to send you a letter! I was in a bad relationship for a long time. Finding my way out and back to myself was so difficult, and it still is a work in progress, but you are strong and can take the steps you need to take! Sending you a virtual hug! Would you share your address with me at kates1268@gmail.com? You are so wonderful and worthy of love and connection!
  • Mary
    Hi Anjela,
    I was in your shoes for several years, and started to self destruct as a result. I'd love to be there for you in whatever way you need. Feel free to e-mail me, caskey.mary@gmail.com.

    You can do this!
  • Kim
    Angela
    You are stronger than you know.... sending hugs!
    Women are made to be resilient and leaders among their tribe and for themselves.... you can do hard things (thanks G :). You got this... now get on with YOUR life ! Xoxo
  • Kim
    Angela
    You are stronger than you know.... sending hugs!
    Women are made to be resilient and leaders among their tribe and for themselves.... you can do hard things (thanks G :). You got this... now get on with YOUR life ! Xoxo
  • Kim
    Angela
    You are stronger than you know.... sending hugs!
    Women are made to be resilient and leaders among their tribe and for themselves.... you can do hard things (thanks G :). You got this... now get on with YOUR life ! Xoxo
  • Allie
    I would love to send you a letter of encouragement! Send your contact info to allison.huss@yahoo.com. Hang in there!